Sex and the city

The film was utterly colourful, great bags (appart from Louis Vuitton, he should stop designing right now) and fashion and it was great viewing just for that and the girls looked better than ever....however, before I go on...the acting was crap and I wasn't sure what happened, the cast was the same yet they behaved as if someone possessed them...and not in a good way. Still I noticed something about myself while watching; I disagreed with Carrie going on with the huge wedding without taking into an account how Big was feeling, his discomfort clearly visible and I disagreed with Miranda for not forgiving Steve's infidelity on the grounds that she was too busy to have sex with him and she let herself go waxing wise....

Hmmm...I am devoted monogamist yet I think something shocking is happening to me now, I am becoming a realist. I feel unfaithful men usually belong into two categories; bastards and neglected men. Few years back, when I started dating after 10 year relationship, a guy mailed me on some dating site and admited he was married. Upon asking him why he is on a dating site, he said him and his wife had not had sex for 2 years. I asked if he talked to her and he said, yes a million times and she always gives some excuse and now he feels stupid asking.
I asked him why doesn't he leave and I never forgot his reply: " Men are crap at leaving, they suffer and suffer and then they have to find someone to go to, they never leave without someone to go to." The sad thing is that he was not a bad guy, just neglected...or maybe people just stay in fucked up relationships for whatever reason. Sex is a primal need and if you are not fullfilling it in a relationship out of carelessness, there can be no intimacy either. On those grounds I felt Miranda should just address why it happened. maybe for the first time in my life I actually acknowledged how much men suffer in relationships with women too, it is a wonder anyone makes it...